Don’t wait – do it now.
You already know that life is too short to be medicore. You want more, and yet…
You’re comfortable. You might be tired of what ‘success’ has cost you. But comfortable is not living your life – it’s settling. And settling won’t bring you the kind of success you really want.
I’m a Welsh-born lass living in Yorkshire and I like to keep things straightforward. But I’m also prone to over-thinking, people-pleasing and the dreadful affection of comparison-itis which has made my life far more complicated than I needed it to be at times …
I did what exactly what I see happening to smart women everywhere…I got too busy – work and family and relationships and friendships – everything stacked up to busy busy busy. And then we get too busy even to think about ourselves, as we put everyone else first… **got that T shirt but was too busy to wear it**
Lone Rangers lose out
And we try and do all this on our own – because we’re strong, smart, have worked it all out up to now, and it’s up to us, right? Don’t ever admit it’s not all under control. **exhausting**.
Yes I am smart, and strong, and I worked it all out BUT eventually I found a much better way: connecting with other people, speaking my own truth and sharing my failures, asking for support. I’ve been savvy enough to seek out some amazing business coaches and mastermind groups which have empowered me, supported me and guided me.
We’re not made to walk this life alone. In fact, trying to know it all, do it all, cope with it all ALONE is the very opposite of what is required to bring happiness and joy into our life. Getting vulnerable, asking for help, offering to help others, sharing who we are and following the breadcrumbs of what makes us happy…that’s where the magic lies.
And that’s what I do and why I do it. Coaching is a very powerful way of helping people see what they already know is there, but they have put out of reach – their own dreams, truths and innate passions. It’s about connection, and being successful without overwhelm. On your own terms, not based on someone else’s vision of what success looks like. I love to help others and coaching is a natural and instinctive way for me to share my knowledge, experience and insights.
My Why is stopping brilliant people from saying things like:
- I’m too busy right now
- I’ll do it when the kids are older
- I can’t do that I’ve got a mortgage to pay
- When I save up enough money I’ll do that
- I’m not good enough and I don’t have the skills/experience/time/money/support (*insert other excuse*)
- OMG what would people say?
- I tried that once but it didn’t work
- I haven’t got the skills or the time or the money or the confidence to do that
…and so on.
You get the idea. We all do it. If we’re not saying it, we’re most certainly thinking it.
And you know these are excuses, because deep down you believe anything is possible, but the truth is you’re scared. Not of failure actually – but of your own brilliant success and what that would mean.
What change would that bring? What would people say and what might you have to give up on the way?
Success is scary and it’s easier to stay hidden, quiet, comfortable.
And perhaps you really just don’t have a clue how to go about doing what you really want to…where to start? How to begin? Who can help?
You know those dreams you have which keep you awake at night? The ones that feel like a ‘crazy idea’ you instantly talk yourself out of in the morning? That’s why you’re not doing them – it’s the ‘voice of reason’ having too much control… and who put that bossy mean naysayer in charge anyway?
So now you’re back here, with life not looking quite how you’d like it to be, not enough time to spend with the people who count, while you become increasingly overwhelmed and frustrated (or simply just bored and tired).
You’ve become that person who is tired of being tired, feeling stuck in a hamster wheel, desperate for change yet at the same time not wanting to rock the boat.
Time to change
I’ll ask you to take control. I’ll ask you to start writing a new story. Because in order to stop playing small, you will have to commit to taking action and doing things differently. Even when it gets uncomfortable – which I can pretty much guarantee it will – but it will be more than worth it. All rewards lie on the other side of courage.
My Why is to get you to drop the excuses. To be prepared to stroll past the doubters and conformists to get where you want to go. To be honest and brave and take some risks. You’ll need to be ready to fail as failing is how you’ll get there. But you’ll have help on the way, as you’ll have asked for it to be there. You won’t be on your own.
My why is supporting you to live a life of freedom, choice and independence as a change maker in the 21st century. We have complex problems to solve and living it small is not getting it done.
Don’t wait. Let’s live life on your terms.